Becoming Happy With My Journey

Sometimes it’s hard seeing all these amazing women I post deadlifting, and squatting these huge numbers and don’t get me started on the girls who are benching more than most guys. It’s exhausting just watching them. And with my first meet coming up in 5 weeks (update: My meet story is here) , I began looking at myself and feeling like a little weakling and wonder why even try…

I heard this quote by Jon Acuff that says, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle”. It’s a good reminder to those of us who haven’t been doing this for years or who may not have all the resources available to us. We can’t compare our numbers, regardless of how meager they may seem, to the girl who’s been lifting for years. Strength comes with time. And even if you never get to pull over 300lbs or Squat three times your body weight as long as you keep going and keep pushing that's a win in itself.

I talk a big game about being happy with your own process, but I get down too. My first meet and while I'm excited I can’t help thinking that I’m nowhere near competitive, especially in my weight class so why even do the meet… but thanks to my husband and amazing friends, I’ve come to realize it’s not about being competitive. The best advice I’ve been given about this upcoming meet is to make my goals for the meet attainable. So my goal is to get a total. That’s it. Regardless of the amount, I just want a total and to be able to officially say I’m a powerlifter!

So don’t get caught up in what other people are doing. Learn to be happy with your journey and allow yourself to be inspired by these super strong women, they show us that these amazing feats of strength are even possible. Continue to do YOUR best and keep getting stronger and stronger. #UpliftandLiftHeavy


  • Lisa

    Thank you so much for writing this! I have been a powerlifter for 7 weeks and 3 days lol and I am doing my first meet in June. For a small gal I have a lot of natural strength and ability and am so incredibly proud of my own progress but I still have that self salubrious and feeling that I don’t belong or have no business planning to compete. Hearing this is absolutely what I needed!

  • D'Anna

    I so needed to read this today!! My first event is in April, I’ve only been lifting seriously for 18months. It wasn’t easy deciding to sign up and challenge myself to this level. At 48 I realize that I don’t want to regret not doing it while I had the chance. My goal is to make my opener and just to be brave enough to stand on that platform and do myself proud…

  • Tina Marie

    What is great about powerlifting is that when you begin, it is competition with yourself… you are constantly working to get stronger, hone technique, become better. Your first meet is the official start to your journey and progression. Not everyone needs to be super competitive in their weight class. More than anything else, we do this for ourselves. It is an amazing accomplishment to finish your first meet, no matter how you do! Even if it doesn’t go as planned, you have the opportunity to rise and do better. That is the magic.

  • Amy

    YAY!!! I’m so glad you wrote this, and I’m so glad you are going to compete. I was debating whether or not to do my first Strongwoman competition and many other competitors urged me to do it. When I signed up, still doubtful of my numbers, a competitor said, “you are winning already!” I loved that. The winning is in the love and dedication, in the jumping in and doing it and giving it your all, day after day at the gym and yes, going to meets, too. You keep going back and working at it because you love it. THANK you for this post— I really want to do a powerlifting meet, too, but while my deadlift is good, I had to go waaaaaaaay down in my squat to clean up technique big time. I also have a shoulder issue I need to take care of. But I keep working at it, showing up, doing my light ass squats but working on technique so I can build back up big time. Slow and steady wins the race. Thank you for sharing your story. It is so encouraging to hear others are in the same boat, and we all keep working at it. Thank you also for this blog!!

  • Mimi

    This is amazing. I had my first meet back in October and although I kept asking myself “why am I even doing this? I’m not good and my numbers are nothing compared to all these other girls.” I’m glad I did it because I then knew what I needed to work on to get better and be the best I can be. Nobody cares about your numbers at first but that you’re trying.

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